Before Making a Big Medical Decision

• Have I taken a pause to reflect, not just react?
• Do I fully understand the diagnosis and the proposed treatment?
• Have I asked, “Are there any other options?”
• Have I written down or recorded questions to ask my provider?
• Have I brought someone with me to help listen, take notes, or advocate?

Asking Questions That Matter

• What are the risks and benefits of this option?
• What happens if we wait or try something else first?
• How will this treatment affect my daily life, independence, or long-term function?
• What would you do if this were your loved one in my shoes?
• Can you explain that in a simpler way or provide something in writing?

Considering a Second (or Third) Opinion

• Have I been encouraged to get a second opinion—or do I feel okay asking for one?
• Have I heard more than one approach to this diagnosis or problem?
• Have I looked for someone with a different specialty or care philosophy (e.g., surgical vs. non-surgical)?
• Do I understand the consensus and the variations among doctors?
• Does one explanation or plan align more clearly with my values or goals?

Checking in With Your Gut

• Does this provider listen to me, or talk past me?
• Do I feel rushed, dismissed, or intimidated in appointments?
• Does this treatment plan make sense to me, even if it’s hard?
• Have I had time to reflect, without feeling pressured?
• If something feels “off,” have I taken it seriously?

Personal Advocacy & Support

• Have I asked someone I trust to be my healthcare partner or advocate?
• Have I joined a support group or found others who’ve faced similar decisions?
• Am I keeping a simple health journal—questions, test results, changes in how I feel?
• Do I know how to access my medical records and test results?

You don’t have to be a doctor to make a wise health decision.
You just have to be informed, curious, and courageous enough to listen—to the people who care for you, yes, but also to yourself.